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iitaNeurodivergence ponderings ...I'm of an age to have flown under the autism radar all my life. Being female-presenting, doubly so.My acknowledgement of my autism has been met with both disbelief and silence. Yet, it runs in the family as a never discussed, never faced phenomenon.I have a male nephew, "on brand" autistic as so many studies portray - skills with things and concepts, few with people. Never tested, never spoken of as neurodivergent, only noted as kind of odd. The son of a cousin is an equally clear case, with special skills and interests but lacking "marketable value" to find employment. Both of them single, no relationships, ever. They are also skilled, funny, observant people capable of storing astonishing amounts of detailed information. But within the family, they are only spoken of as an afterthought.Feels like among the family, autism is seen as a failure. To manage, to accomplish, to conform.Small wonder my self-acclaimed autistic identity has met with such a barrier - you can't be, why should you even want to be. You have a degree, a child, a job, medals of honor, even.Yes, but. I also have loneliness, lack of support, mistrust in my own skills. My personality I have hid for decades, so long that I now struggle to know who I am. From all the years of masking, and coping as the neurodivergent mother of a neurodivergent child, I have severe <a href="https://beige.party/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a>. I am happy to be autistic. Knowing what all of this in my life is helps me more than all the shush-shushing, the caution, the silence ever did.<a href="https://beige.party/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a>

Heather Cook🖖Autistic CoachLet yourself off the hook for the things that right now might seem non-negotiable. At least some of them. <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Autistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Neurodiversity</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/BurnoutRecovery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#BurnoutRecovery</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Burnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Burnout</a>

ideogramI've only just realised that my level of face blindness (prosopagnosia) is why I often find films confusing. <a href="https://social.coop/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Autism</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#autistic</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/neurodiverse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#neurodiverse</a> <a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">@actuallyautistic</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a>

Heather Cook🖖Autistic CoachBurnout and overwhelm make sensory issues more intense, and they also build up over time, so when you were younger sensory issues may not have been quite as big of a deal. <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Autistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Sensory" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Sensory</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Burnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Burnout</a>

Evan Light<a href="https://mstdn.social/@marick" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">@marick</a> I'll give this a listen. As someone diagnosed <a href="https://tenforward.social/tags/actuallyautistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#actuallyautistic</a>, theory of mind and emotions as well as neurology are amateur interests of mine. All part of understanding how I don't fit in the world and what to do about it. <a href="https://tenforward.social/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a>

Heather Cook🖖Autistic CoachThe Impact Of Internal Awareness On Your Energy Levels <a href="https://youtu.be/SMpmCe_uv2I?si=JvpaOSE15n7TYZpp" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/SMpmCe_uv2I?si=JvpaOSE15n7TYZpp</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/EnergyManagement" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#EnergyManagement</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/BurnoutRecovery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#BurnoutRecovery</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a>

<undef>Skill loss in <a href="https://mementomori.social/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> is a real kablammo. Like, a foreign language that just a week ago I could use OKeish, I can't even read it right now. It's like something short-circuits and it's just a jumble. Heck, I'm having hard time with the languages I do know well, including my own. It's like the whole language comprehension part of my brain has some major damage. The output side is not doing that hot either.The hard part is comprehending (ha! my bad pun circuitry still works) that it's not something one can fix by trying harder, or just keeping at it or what not. The system's off-line due overload and shoving more amps into it ain't gonna bring it back. That's the other thing, I'm using metaphors a lot more nowadays... It's like bypassing the whole artisanally assembling some sensible output part, just grab a slug from the bin and print that instead. :meow_code:

ideogramAutistics, how much do you identify with the label Autigender? <a href="https://neurodivergentrebel.com/2021/01/06/what-is-autigender-the-relationship-between-autism-gender-an-autistic-perspective/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank">https://neurodivergentrebel.com/2021/01/06/what-is-autigender-the-relationship-between-autism-gender-an-autistic-perspective/</a>Obviously comment if you have more to say. 💖<a href="https://social.coop/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Autism</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#autistic</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/neurodiverse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#neurodiverse</a> <a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">@actuallyautistic</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a>

Heather Cook🖖Autistic CoachThis is taking too long! <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/actuallyautistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#actuallyautistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/adhdselfimprovement" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#adhdselfimprovement</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/autisticburnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#autisticburnout</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/burnoutrecovery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#burnoutrecovery</a> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lkXv8cdHFuE" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lkXv8cdHFuE</a><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurospicy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Neurospicy</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Neurodivergent</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ND" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ND</a>

Heather Cook🖖Autistic CoachIf I’m not able to do everything, and have energy left over and have a smile on my face the whole time, it does not mean that I’m a broken human being, it does not mean that I’m not good enough. <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Autistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Burnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Burnout</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Acceptance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Acceptance</a>

ideogramThere was a conversation with my mother and older brother when I was maybe 6 when I was determined there were two spellings of the word "city". We determined it was the plural but it has never not annoyed me I was wrong somehow.<a href="https://social.coop/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Autism</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#autistic</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/neurodiverse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#neurodiverse</a> <a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">@actuallyautistic</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/hyperlexic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#hyperlexic</a>

Katy ElphinstoneThis short video about autistic burnout was shared with me on tiktok.Spot on, I thought 🥺<a href="https://mas.to/tags/LateDiagnosedAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#LateDiagnosedAutistic</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/Intersectionality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Intersectionality</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/gender" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#gender</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/Racism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Racism</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/Burnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Burnout</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a><a href="https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNHbtPhjud2aH-ITpBN/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank">https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNHbtPhjud2aH-ITpBN/</a>

ideogramI just read this article about Moral scrupulosity OCD, and I'm not *sure* it describes me exactly, but gosh do I empathise with much of what is said. <a href="https://social.coop/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Autism</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#autistic</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/neurodiverse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#neurodiverse</a> <a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">@actuallyautistic</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a><a href="https://embrace-autism.com/moral-scrupulosity-ocd/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank">https://embrace-autism.com/moral-scrupulosity-ocd/</a>

AutisticRealmsAutistic burnout doesn’t always need “switching off.” Sometimes we heal by going deeper into flow, into interests, into monotropic spiral time. Rest can look like immersion, not stillness. Find out more! <a href="https://neurodifferent.me/tags/Monotropism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Monotropism</a> <a href="https://neurodifferent.me/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://neurodifferent.me/tags/NeurodivergentRest" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#NeurodivergentRest</a> <a href="https://neurodifferent.me/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a><a href="https://autisticrealms.com/going-deeper-rest-burnout-and-monotropic-flow/?utm_source=mastodon&utm_medium=jetpack_social" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank">https://autisticrealms.com/going-deeper-rest-burnout-and-monotropic-flow/?utm_source=mastodon&utm_medium=jetpack_social</a>

Heather Cook🖖Autistic CoachMost of the time you probably try to push decades worth of shame, and blame, and guilt of not fitting in, away and not think about it…except that’s not entirely possible.It still leaks out around the edges, often in the form of anxieties or depression, and fatigue.<a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Neurodiversity</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/BurnoutRecovery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#BurnoutRecovery</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Burnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Burnout</a>

David WakehamI hope you know that I tried. <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/ausol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ausol</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/HousingCrisis" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#HousingCrisis</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://youtu.be/mMlT5Gsrm_E?si=SCK-fuEkYBcvJILD" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/mMlT5Gsrm_E?si=SCK-fuEkYBcvJILD</a>

Heather Cook🖖Autistic CoachIt takes a lot of energy to believe things that you know really aren’t true. <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/EnergyManagement" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#EnergyManagement</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/BurnoutRecovery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#BurnoutRecovery</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a>

Heather Cook🖖Autistic CoachHow To Process Info With Brain Fog <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TgbeIi7sGnw" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TgbeIi7sGnw</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/BurnoutRecovery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#BurnoutRecovery</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Burnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Burnout</a>

Erik L. Midtsveen🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈I’m not saying everything about autism is perfect, I personally experience extreme <a href="https://social.linux.pizza/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> at times. For example, you can see more about what that means for me here: <a href="https://pixelfed.social/p/midtsveen/827594407406378704" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank">https://pixelfed.social/p/midtsveen/827594407406378704</a>But don’t let burnout take over who you are. ❤

Heather Cook🖖Autistic CoachIf you just have a brief burst of work followed by a long burnout, that’s not really effective; it’s not sustainable and practically, you’re gonna get less done with that than if you work just a little bit consistently or semi-consistently, over the same amount of time.<a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/BurnoutRecovery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#BurnoutRecovery</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Burnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Burnout</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a>

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