Perhaps a ubiquitous dilemma:
Cargo pants with big pockets that are clearly kept up by the curve of the hip
Versus
Maxi/Midi skirt that hugs the curves with a soft drape

As a side note, I'm getting back online and catching up on my backlog of tasks. It's a slog this time of year.

Such a busy few weeks that time feels like a blur. It's why my eyes aren't super visible, too blurry.

Here's a #FitCheck for another wardrobe staple for when I can't or won't wear a crop top. Many reasons for this, like it being fall and chilly, or needing to do an in-person day at the office. Don't worry, I add a hoodie to hide my curves and tats in mixed company and include a picture for reference.

The pasties I used actually worked to suppress the nipples. However, it's really difficult to match my skin tone because of all the olive tones, and the top is slightly translucent which makes them visible. Despite the appearance it's not actually a texture bump.

Apparently I missed international lesbian day yesterday. I'm just going to have to make it up to you all. I've not been online as much this week. Anyway, here's a quick #FitCheck now with harem pants!

I like that these sit well on my hips and because they do, they sit higher in the back creating converging/diverging lines across the sides of my torso. Lines like that accentuate curves.

It's why the pacman creatures are so round! If I picked up belly dancing I could probably do lots of silly waka waka maneuvers...

I still have a whole backlog of pictures piling up. Some of them are locked behind a writers block. It's usually temporary.

To help emphasize how nice suspenders/braces look with an outfit, here is a picture to demonstrate them slid off the shoulders creating those side loops that let the eyeballs continue that waist-to-hip curve track. Plus they make for nice fidgets for when you want to have a hand in a pocket for some casual swagger.

Is this more or less gay than the suspenders on version? https://lgbtqia.space/@h3mmy/115244541254643475

Here's a slightly more formal #FitCheck and hopefully it's gay enough.

I'm still wearing chunky black boots, but these pants work better not tucked into the boots, imo.

Does this outfit broadcast enough gay?

So, I did spend a good part of my time hunting for cool rocks at #LakeSuperior and while I didn't find any Yooperlite or Agates this time, I did find where to go if the rocks got especially spicy for some reason.

For the curious, this is the US Post Office in Marquette.

As promised, here is at least one upright picture of this outfit https://lgbtqia.space/@h3mmy/115084182849319361

It stood up quite well to the wind and was easy to run around in. And most importantly, I color coordinate! My skin goes with the sand, sky to skirt, lake to crop-top, and the clouds and white caps to the overshirt, and hair to camera.

Don't worry, I switched to pants later in the day before heading into the woods.

So, for the event this weekend, I was originally planning on going with the black button up I posted here https://lgbtqia.space/@h3mmy/115073189826862696

But as fate would have it, I forgot to pack any bottoms appropriate for that top. They are probably still in the pile at home I forgot to sweep into my bag. Thus, I ended up going with option B which did end up fitting the vibe pretty well for a windy beach at Lake Superior. I spent most of the hour running around with my DSLR. Surprisingly did not get sand everywhere (yet)

I'm on a small trip this weekend and was picking out some semi-formal wear for an event. One of my potential picks for a top is this black button up. It's been a favorite across a few different groups of friends and I didn't want anyone to feel left out.

I'll try to get some pictures of my final fit when that ends up happening.

#CW for slightly suggestive alt text and bare legs. No nudity in this photo, but I am bottomless.

Yesterdays #FitCheck back to my crop+cargo staple. I'm done being sick now, so back to posting pictures.

I figured I should provide an example of where I will place the carabiner mentioned in this post: https://lgbtqia.space/@h3mmy/115033557809623279

Depending on the pants that loop is more towards the back or the side but almost never directly on the back or the side. If you have something hefty dangling from it you can make it bounce off the butt with each step. Similar to tapping to a rhythm when you aren't trapped behind slower walkers.

And yes, I know my mirror needs cleaning. I'll do a before and after in a follow up post later today.

I know it's a bit early for #TomboyTuesday but here's today's #NonBinary #FitCheck

I'd been puzzling as to why these tanks work even with my ~~kong~~ long torso. I think it's the fact that the bunching along the abdomen and then the little peek of tummy gives it texture which allows for the visual interruption. And the boobage probably helps with some part of the visual break. I also like how my arm #tattoos interplay with shadows when there's side lighting.

You'll notice that this fabric does not win against the nipples. In fact, one of the prior tops like this developed a hole right on the nipple. While it was amusing, it was also a little sad. We'll see how this one fares after a couple of months or so.

#FitCheck from a couple of days ago. The dogs are always patient for their walkies and the pacing around is definitely not trying to herd me out. /s

This is a staple outfit so I do end up posting a lot of crop plus baggy pants looks. These are mid-low rise pants which let me decorate the rainbow waistband that inevitably will peek out. An important note for the #Fashion choice of a crop top is that I have a longer torso and my midriff acts like a visual interruption not dissimilar to a wide belt. If I wore this same outfit with a full length tank, it doesn't work as well because there's nothing breaking up the length of the torso. In those cases a high-waisted pant with a belt is called for.

Today's #FitCheck is a classic look that might work for #TomboyTuesday maybe? I can't seem to figure out if this lands more or less butch than my flannel fits, but it definitely has femme elements to it. I suspect it's just because of my curves but other points are appreciated if you folx would like to add further notes.

Leather #Boots #CargoPants are really a lovely combo, and especially so with a crop top and one or two dangly neck ornaments, preferably with a bit of chunkiness. #Tattoos help balance the visual weight and also works well with my messy untamed curls having a day. I'm not sure what might happen if I flex my triceps in this outfit, but I might need to do it for science sometime according to a couple of friends.

Another potential example of #NonBinaryFashion: The state of me after unloading the car after #Blissfest2025

It's definitely #Tomboy chic but the outfit is really just geared for utility. Literally the grungy fit used on the day with all the cleanup and lifting things around, etc. I'm not sure if that's even practical in a dress or skirt.

My hips slant high so I usually go for hi-rise pants, but I think these look pretty good given they don't fit that criteria. I like that it hugs the curve of my hip I think. Makes it feel more secure compared to other mid or low rise pants that can't balance length and width for my type of body.

While I had sneakers on for this specific instance. I definitely intend to make use of these pants with some chunky [black boots](https://lgbtqia.space/@h3mmy/114826497886135932) and a black crop of some sort. It'll be a vibe!

This was a few hours after this picture and documents the same outfit minus the fanny pack: https://lgbtqia.space/@h3mmy/114874870591139908

Another edition of a #TiedFlannel look that's a bit more on the butch side of things. Both the tie and the sleeve rolls are lower which hides the shape of the chest/bust a bit more and the squareness of the plaid patterning can hide some of the soft curves. The slouch pants are also high waisted to allow for a more effective comparison with the slightly more femme variant here: https://lgbtqia.space/@h3mmy/114881878270189638

The fact that my hair is falling to different sides in each of these looks is purely coincidence (I think)

Since I'm learning that y'all like #TiedFlannel I'm fortunate to have a decent collection of examples with different types of flannel and #NonBinaryFashion looks to go along with it.

Sometimes I'll tie it closer to the underbust which emphasis the breasts/chest a bit more. I tend to only do this if I'm wearing hi rise pants because otherwise my torso can look too long to me even if it's actually fine.

Where the knot lands can really change the appearance of an outfit. Having it closer to the underbust makes this variant appear more femme. The highlighting of the distinction between breast/chest and waist with revealing some of the soft curves helps with this I think.

For contrast, a more butch variant is posted here: https://lgbtqia.space/@h3mmy/114881932510141414

This is such a routine outfit for me, I hope you don't get bored of it. My weight fluctuates and it's usually difficult for me to keep it up. While I don't have as much dysphoria, I still get body dysmorphia during these periods. A casual flannel is pretty effective at counteracting this and when my self esteem picks back up I can remove it.